Discovering that the person you love is cheating on you can be extremely painful. It’s an emotionally challenging time and can lead to some complex emotions, including anger, betrayal, hurt, sadness, and confusion. If you’re worried that your wife might be cheating but don’t know for sure, look out for the following subtle signs.
One of the first signs that something might be amiss is if you notice a change in your wife’s behavior. Although change alone isn’t necessarily a sign that she’s cheating, if you’re suspicious then look for a pattern of changes. A few examples of the type of changes to look for include:
• She’s become more distant or dismissive.
• She’s paying more attention to her appearance and is more self-conscious.
• She’s more withdrawn or secretive.
• She’s more guarded or defensive.
• She’s more restless and is aimlessly wandering around the house more often.
• She’s suddenly working out a lot at odd times and dressing more provocatively.
• She’s more distracted or distant during conversations with you.
• She lies or avoids answering questions when you ask her something.
• She’s frequently mentioning something or someone from her past who was of the opposite sex.
A sure sign that something’s going on, is if you notice that your wife is always either talking on the phone or sending text messages, especially when you’re not around. This can be a sign that she’s talking to someone else, especially if she makes excuses for why she needs to take the call or leaves the room to talk privately.
Change in Routine
If your wife has always been a homebody but suddenly falls off the radar and rarely answers when you call or text, and no longer tells you what she’s doing while she’s out and about, this could be a red flag. Additionally, take note if she rarely goes out during the week, but then suddenly spends more Friday or Saturday nights away from home.
Social media can offer some tell-tale signs if you think your wife is being unfaithful. Take note if her profile suddenly changes to private, or her passwords become much more secure. You should also look out for any possible evidence on her accounts, like unfamiliar comments from members of the opposite sex, or changes in relationships.
Financial and Time Changes
If your wife suddenly has more money than usual and you’re not aware of where it’s coming from, this could be a red flag. She could be receiving gifts or money without you knowing. Additionally, if she’s taking off more time periods than usual, and you rarely know where she’s going, this could also be a sign that she’s cheating. This could be true if weekends or Sunday mornings have started to become a time when she suddenly has something to do and can’t spend time with you.
Lack of Intimacy
Aside from physical intimacy, a lack of emotional intimacy or connection can also be a symptom. If you’re feeling like things just aren’t the same between you two, take note. Women are usually are more in tune with their emotions, so a lack of physical or emotional connection from her end can be a sign that something’s not quite right. If she’s distanced from you emotionally, it can be a sign that she’s invested in someone else.
If you’re aware of these subtle signs and take the time to pay attention to what’s going on between you and your wife, you may be able to come to terms with the possibility of your wife cheating on you if it is indeed the case. There’s nothing more important than the trust in your relationship and the time it takes to nurture it can never be taken for granted. Use these subtle signs to make sure that you’ve covered all the bases in assessing this situation.