Spanking might sound like a strange thing to be exploring in an erotic sense, but in reality, it can be a really enjoyable part of a BDSM experience. That said, there are some things that you should keep in mind if you want to ensure your spanking sessions are truly satisfying. As such, the following guide is here to help you make the most of this unique form of kink, guiding you through the basics of BDSM spanking and offering up a few tips and tricks for perfecting your technique.
Understanding What BDSM Spanking Is All About
Before you start spanking your partner, it’s important to understand what it is about spanking that can make it enjoyable for both parties. Generally speaking, the physical stimulation of spanking can lead to a rush of adrenaline and the release of endorphins, which can make the experience both pleasurable and arousing. Additionally, the physical aspect of spanking can create a power play dynamic that can lead to further intensity in the bedroom.
Types of Spanking
In addition to understanding the concept of spanking in a BDSM context, it’s also important to familiarize yourself with the different types of spanking available. The most common form of spanking is the slap, which is typically used to give the spanker more control since they can adjust the force they use and work their way up as they become more confident.
Other forms of spanking include the stroke, which is slightly gentler than a slap, and the massage, which can result in a more sensual experience. Additionally, spanking can also include the use of paddles, wooden spoons, and even crops, depending on the level of intensity desired by the participants.
Prepping for Spanking
Knowing the types of spanking is of course important, but it’s also important to understand how to prepare for a spanking session. As always, communication and consent are key in any BDSM encounter, so make sure to have a discussion about your individual desires and boundaries beforehand.
Additionally, for your physical safety, it is recommended that you dilate your anal and/or vaginal openings if there is a risk of penetrative spanking. This is to reduce the risk of internal swells, tears, and pain. Finally, it is also important to be aware of where and how hard you are hitting, since it’s very easy to cause unwanted bruising if you are not careful.
Different Erotic Spanking Positions
Once you’ve discussed your desires and taken the appropriate steps to ensure a safe experience, it’s time to explore different spanking positions. It can be helpful to find a comfortable position for the person being spanked to ensure they are in an optimal state to receive the pleasure (or punishment!) being bestowed upon them.
Lying stomach down or with one leg up can be good starting positions, as can leaning against a wall with one leg up or lying over a chair. If you’re unsure of which position(s) to use, you can always ask the person being spanked for their preference.
Enhancing the Experience
Spanking can be incredibly enjoyable, but there are also a few additional components that can help to enhance the experience. For example, introducing a massage or a light touch between spanking can help to bring even more sensation into the experience.
You can also use blindfolds, cuffs, and/or impact toys (such as paddles and whips) to bring an additional level of intensity and/or pleasure to the equation. Of course, it’s important to ensure that these additional components are used safely and in line with the consensual desires of everyone involved.
Points to Remember for Long-Term Enjoyment
Finally, it is important to go over a few final points before you spank your partner. Keep in mind that spanking should never be used punitively, but should instead be used to facilitate pleasure or as part of consensual power play. Additionally, make sure to keep communication lines open throughout the experience and keep an eye out for any signs of distress or pain. Additionally, it is important to respect the wishes and boundaries of the person being spanked and to ensure the intensity and timing of the spanking is well-controlled.
Spanking can be an incredibly enjoyable form of BDSM experience with the right knowledge and respect for the wishes of all participants. This guide has aimed to offer up an overview of the basics of spanking, helping you to gain an understanding of what it’s all about and how to ensure it’s practiced safely and pleasurably. Make sure to remember the tips discussed here and have fun exploring the possibilities of erotic spanking.
